Trauma Informed Coaching
Helping you heal, rebuild, and move forward with confidence.
Unfiltered HER Coaching is about helping women find themselves again.
If you’ve lost your identity in a toxic relationship, you’re not alone. Many women searching for counselling or therapy are really looking for clarity, validation, and understanding. While I am not a licensed therapist, I offer trauma-informed coaching to help you make sense of your experience and begin healing
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Why Emotional Abuse Makes You Feel Like Something Is Wrong With You
When you’ve been through trauma, toxic relationships, or just unhealthy dynamics… that voice in your head gets louder. You start questioning everything. Feeling like you’re too much… or not enough… or somehow both at the same time. I know that space. And what I’ve come to understand is—none of that is random. You weren’t born doubting yourself like that… you learned it through what you went through. And I’m not here to fix you. Because the truth is… you’re not broken. Even if it feels like something is wrong with you—especially when it feels constant—that didn’t come from nowhere. That came from being in environments where you had to second-guess yourself… where you felt like you had to shrink… or slowly lost connection with who you even were. And the longer you believe something is wrong with you… the longer you stay stuck in it. Carrying shame that was never yours to begin with. Healing starts when you begin to see it differently— not as something wrong with you… but as something you adapted to. And from there… you start finding your way back to yourself.
I’ve been there....
I’ve been in a relationship that slowly broke down my sense of self, even if I couldn’t fully see it at the time. I thought the goal was to move on—to forget it, get over it, and push it aside. But instead, I found myself stuck in the same patterns, questioning my reality, and losing confidence in my own thoughts and decisions. What I didn’t understand then was that I was caught in a trauma response—constantly trying to make sense of something that kept shifting.
I thought I just needed to “let it go,” but I couldn’t—and that left me carrying a lot of shame.
What I understand now is this: there was never anything wrong with me. My reactions, my attachment, and even the confusion all made sense in the context of what I experienced. Trauma doesn’t just affect what happens to you—it affects how you process, respond, and relate to yourself afterward.
Awareness was the first step, but it wasn’t enough on its own. I had to rebuild trust with myself, regulate my emotions, and create a sense of internal safety instead of constantly looking for it outside of me.
Today, I don’t see my past as something that broke me. I see it as something I adapted to, learned from, and grew through. I’ve come back to myself, rebuilt my confidence, and created a life that feels grounded and authentic—without ignoring what it took to get here.